What We Allow

I really like this quote, and, I know that for many of us, not letting others destroy our inner peace is a learning process. We do not feel we deserve to stick up for ourselves, to tell people our truth, to simply ignore what others do that bugs us. 

So what is the process? First digging deep into our early lives to discover where, when and with whom we began to doubt ourselves. And this can be before we are even born. To examine those experiences and to discover what we began to believe and how we began to behave. If a little one believes, based on a situation, that she/he is powerless or does not matter, their behavior will reflect that. Putting up, not speaking up, living under the radar. Or conversely, in an effort to get attention, acting out.

Either way - under the radar or acting out- still are positions of powerlessness.

Attending to the part that gets triggered and learning, as an adult, that you do have choices in how you let others impact you is part of the growing up process. Parenting that little one is part of the maturing process.

I wish we all had upbringings with people who supported us, believed in us, let us know we had rights. I wish that were true. And, it often is not.

If you are needing help in learning how more choices in your behavior and thoughts can assist you now, call/text 360-432-1236. I can help.