Life Is About Balance

Sometimes when people grow up in difficult situations it is hard to know how to implement these ideas.

Be kind but don't let people abuse you. Yes...really good idea. BUT,  if you have not ever learned how to set healthy boundaries, if you come from people who did not allow you to have boundaries and did not model healthy boundaries...finding the balance between kindness and abuse can be hard.

Trust, but don't be deceived. Again...depending on a person's upbringing...this might take time, practice...you might need help.

And I think the improving yourself is in learning how to find your balance...what works for you. And sometimes that takes some 'digging'. 

Sometimes...often actually, beginning a healing process is like going on an archaeological dig: ground has to be uncovered, dug up, brought to the light and examined with compassion. People need to learn that they can have boundaries...that saying no is ok...that sometimes not being kind, not trusting so quickly....is the best way to be as they learn. 

How is your balance in these things?