Stop People Pleasing

I think when I was younger I went along with ideas and people much more readily. Why? Because I was such a 'people-pleaser' growing up that I had not learned, at least some of the time, to think for myself.

As I have moved along on my healing journey I realized way back when that in my family it was absolutely not safe to disagree, to cause trouble, to refute what my mother said. To act in any way against her was not safe. And I saw this in my brother who was the 'scapegoat' in our family system. He got the most abuse, the physical abuse...getting locked out of the house in winter with snow flying. And him crying his little heart out. 

My mother was cruel. And like all people, she had different 'parts'. 

But as I healed I began to think for myself. I realized..and am still realizing...I do not need to please others. I might please them but I often might not. And I am ok either way. 

This has not been an easy journey. I was willing to change and I had help. If you are needing some help, schedule a free consultation with me and let's talk about it. Call or text 360-432-1236