I can never say enough about self-compassion - except to say that MOST people are not very good at it!
I almost always recommend people go to the www.self-compassion.org website and listen to the free audio recordings you can find there.
They are lovely and when people actually listen to them...more than once...they feel kinder, softer and better about themselves.
For the truth is we would never say to a friend what we say/intend/think of/mean about us. Not sure why...but it is a killer of the soul and heart and mind. So STOP doing it.
Go listen. More than once. Maybe take a self-compassion workshop?
You can also call/text me 360-432-1236. I can help. Let's set up a free telephone consultation and go from there.