Endings

I love the colors in fall. Look at these leaves. Endings. And, we sometimes forget, beginnings!

What are you ending? Can you end it consciously? Putting something to rest? Completing something - almost anything - in a healthy way?

Several years ago I realized I did not do endings well. In my family people tended to just walk away. And even if they did not physically walk away, they left through chaos, fighting, alcohol, addictions. There are really many, many ways people can leave. 

I think I left inside although my body was often present. I really went into 'Freeze'...deer caught in the headlights. Not realizing for years and years what I was doing. And then wondering why relationships did not work out. And of course, I was doing a lot of 'trauma bonding' so I found people who would match me in an unhealthy way.

When I got this and began to do healing around freeze I began to understand how bad I was at endings! Now I very seldom go into 'freeze' and if I feel it starting in my body - my hands tingle - I can orient myself, ground myself and come back to a calm ventral state. 

Now I can end things pretty well and in healthy ways and actually look forward to beginnings without all the energetic 'baggage' I carried for years! 

If you want help with your endings and beginnings, let's talk. I offer free 30 minute consultations: text or call 360-432-1236 to schedule!