Being Liked - and Losing Yourself

I often talk to people who admit that they do so much for everyone else...because they want to be liked.

This is human. If we were not liked or loved or cared for at some points and in some ways...we might not survive.

However, when chronically overdoing because you want someone to 'like you' really takes away from your life-force energy, your calm, your life...it is time to make a change.

Often wanting to be 'liked' stems from issues in our childhoods. I had a very angry and bitter Mom - bless her - and it was crucial for me, as a little one, to make sure my Mom liked me. Because as a baby and child we are totally dependent on our caretakers/parents and if they don't like us they might let us die, not feed us, etc.

Of course, that is the extreme. But ask yourself: when did this start? How old was I? And how old do I feel now, as an adult, reverting to that childhood need to be liked? 

It is simply a 'part of you' that reverts to old belief - if I am not liked I am not safe, for instance - it is not the adult part that walks the world, has a job, responsibilities...who makes the call to ask for help. 

If this piques your interest in what 'part' of you engages in 'like me, like me'...call and let's talk. I offer free 30 minute consultations and if it seems we are a good 'fit', we can move forward. Call or text 360-432-1236.