Being Kind...

I used to think...a long time ago, that if I was kind I could not/should not have boundaries.

That when I did set boundaries and my Mom called me 'selfish', that I was not kind. Not a good person. 

Wow. Imagine my astonishment and my relief when I learned about healthy boundaries. About ways to set healthy boundaries AND be kind. Because not setting healthy boundaries was actually saying to the other: "I don't think you can do it, are capable...etc". AND it was such a set-up for me to remain unhappy, angry, frustrated.

So this reminder is a good one. Being kind is good. But having boundaries is REALLY GOOD. 

If you are having trouble with doing this in your life. If other people are putting you down or criticizing you for taking care of you, getting clear about what you need/want...and stating your needs...and you find yourself feeling stuck in this trap, let's talk. I offer free scheduled 30 minute consultations. Call or text 360-432-1236. Time to get out of this trap.