BE the Adult You Needed

I talk to my clients all the time about finding and accessing and using the 'wise adult' part of themselves. 

When we get triggered, bothered, upset, sad, angry...betrayed, it is often the 'child' part of us that jumps up. The hurt part that needs something, and needed something way back when, and reacts in the only ways it knows. Think about you and what you do when you get triggered. 

So it is important to identify that part - whether you call it a child part, a shadow part, archetypal part...that hurt and needy part of you and begin to 'be the adult you needed'. 

What does that look like? Well, paying attention to those times you get triggered, learning how to follow your bodies' reaction to the triggering as in does your breathing get shallow, tummy start to hurt, head feel fuzzy? Those are all signs that your body is reacting to 'danger - whether real or imagined. Once you can notice the body reactions you can use that adult part of you to soothe and calm the part that is hurt.

In the course of treatment I almost always recommend that a client write a letter to a hurt part..."I am the 5 year old, I am..." and just see what comes out. 

It is possible to learn to access that adult your child needed. It is. Call me to arrange a free consultation and we can talk about it and see if working with me would be a good idea for you. Call or text 360-432-1236.