How Are You Getting In Your Own Way?

There is something in therapy called a 'secondary gain'. It simply means that there is always another side to all that happens to us. We are sickly as children and often grow up to have a number of issues because we know we will get attention - just like we did as a child. 

Or we continue to self-sabotage even though we say we don't want to...because it might get us the attention and sympathy we long for.

We all do it...no one is exempt. Ways we contribute to our own suffering.

Looking honestly at what we do takes courage. Takes honesty and intention to heal deeply.

I am not afraid to point out to people the ways they prolong their suffering. And then ask if they want to change or continue? If you are curious about yourself and how you might be contributing to, or prolonging your suffering, let's talk. 

I offer free 30 minute scheduled consultations so that you can ask questions and we can get a 'sense' of the other and whether working together feels right. Call or text 360-432-1236 to schedule that consultation.