Just like you, I often ask myself: do I really need help right now, or am I making this up?
How do we know when we need help? Well with the body it is easy to know: illness, pain, breaks, etc.
With our hearts and emotions it can be harder - harder to know when enough is enough, when the week of not getting out of bed or calling in sick, of feeling sick all the time, is not stopping. When we withdraw from relationships, friends, activities.
Of course this is all on a continuum from isolating or feeling sad sometimes, to isolating and feeling sad all the time. Not being able to see anything good coming in the future.
So where are you on the continuum? Feeling slightly uneasy about what seems to be a 'slide' down the rabbit hole to less and less in your life, more and more isolation and withdrawal? Or, almost not able to function?
I have been both places and I know that they are both places where we are not able to really be ourselves or have or even work toward what we most desire in life. We are stuck. And unfortunately, that 'stuckness' usually gets worse unless there is an intervention of some sort: medication, therapy, support groups...etc.
So stop right now and ask yourself: where am I? On a scale of 1 to 10 ( 1 being some discomfort, uneasiness, life is getting smaller, to the 10 of full-blown not leaving the house or reaching out ), where are you? Where are you stuck? What do you want less of? AND...what do you want more of?
I hope that if you are a 5 or over, you are calling someone, asking for help. I can help and I am not the only one. Reach out. Ask for help. THIS IS YOUR LIFE!
Are you wanting to...longing for, a safe and confidential place to share your anxieties? Your worries? The things that keep you from having, and living, the kind of life you really desire?
And yet, and yet...when an opportunity for healing and change comes your way, you say "No"? What is keeping you from saying "Yes"? What are the concerns you have? The fears?
These thoughts are coming to me as I get ready to offer an 8-week Anxiety Support Group. So let me see if I can address some of these issues/fears:
I won't know anyone. True, chances are you won't. And...everyone of you is in the same boat, including, perhaps, me! Designed over 8 weeks, meeting every other week, each person will have a chance to share, as they choose, whatever is on their minds and in their hearts. By the end of the group, January of 2018, I believe no one will feel like a stranger.
I won't know what to say. Maybe you won't. I know when I get really anxious it is hard for me to think. To process. My brain goes into 'fight or flight' and I cannot think of one thing to say. I am going to teach you T.R.E., a natural and easy way for the body to release stress and tension. Without words. We will begin each meeting with a 15 minute T.R.E. session so that you might...might feel relaxed and calm enough to share. Or NOT-you can always PASS on anything. I do not want anyone to feel forced to share or participate in any way. I don't want to create more anxiety for anyone.
I won't feel safe. I facilitate groups all the time and I know it is very important to feel safe. To feel seen and heard. To know that whatever is shared is confidential. Safety and confidentiality are at the basis of healthy groups. We will spend time the very first night creating a safe container. Everyone gets input and will be heard in this process and, everyone must agree, once we have some ground rules, to follow them each week.
This is a start. If you want to add any concerns, I am open to hearing from you. My intention is to create the safest, most nurturing 'container' or sacred vessel for this work to get done.
To read or register for the Anxiety Support Group click here:
I am preparing to facilitate a healing weekend retreat called The Letting Go Weekend. (See the flyer below - you are welcome to pay the reduced investment of $225!) As I have been inviting people to join me to begin making the changes they have only dreamt of, I have been thinking about that question: what do you want more of?
For a large part of my life I would have said, as a parent, more time to myself, healthy, happy children, more money, good relationships. You can fill in your own words.
However, now, in this moment in your life, what do you want more of? What do you want less of? Today my answer is different: I want more inner peace, a larger perspective of the world, less ego and more heart in my interactions with others...a knowledge that I am living as consciously as I can. AS CONSCIOUSLY AS I CAN. And yet, even having said that, and having studied for a number of years in a healing community that 'calls us all' to be more conscious, there are a number of ways I 'check out' during a day...moment to moment sometimes, having to 'call myself back' again and again.
BUT...I KNOW WHAT I WANT: to live consciously with heart and appreciation, with love and compassion for others and for myself. Because in living consciously, I want to die consciously. And as my teacher, David Hartmann said this last weekend: "I want to be used up" when I die. Wow. Now THAT is something to aspire to.
So...if this moves you at all, if you are curious about how a Letting Go Weekend might help you gain more of what you want NOW, how it would help you live more consciously...call me. Just call: 360-432-1236