When clients come to me with an issue, I don't have a formula or template in our work together, and yet there are major 'healing points' in my work with clients. These 'healing points' would be:
recalling somatically the traumatic memories or events: the body experience and the emotion associated with that body sensation;
carefully, with great care and creating safety, expanding the experiences of the baby, child, fetus - even the pre-conception soul - of harm, danger or abuse;
releasing anger, resentments, betrayals by those who were 'supposed to be' caring for us;
comforting and loving that child, baby, fetus, soul with kind words, gentle hands, loving arms;
getting clear about the old beliefs and behaviors of those traumatized children, such as lack of worthiness, value, trust, safety, support, love;
'knowing' the behaviors that corresponded to the beliefs: hiding, being really, really good, trying to be a mini-Mom or mini-Dad, acting out, being 'bad' to get attention, etc;
having a 'corrective experience' of the trauma so that your hippocampus can 'date stamp' the experience and the client can begin to recognize - in their body - the cues or triggers to 'danger' and begin to make different choices.
And recognizing any 'soul loss', retrieving those parts or pieces that, when trauma was happening, drifted off, and restoring them to the person/child self/heart and soul. Things like joy, trust, safety, happiness, playfulness, confidence, certainty, clarity...and the list goes on.
For instance: my stomach gets tight and hurts when I experience ___________, and I feel as if I am in danger. ( Real, imagined or perceived. ) And usually my behavior is to hide - just like I used to hide when bad things happened at home. But now, when my stomach gets tight and hurts, I can ask myself: am I in danger? And what do I need for and from myself right now: a time alone, breathing, asking for a hug, reminding that little girl in me that she is not in danger and the adult and wise part of me will protect her.
With this different choice I can stop disappearing from life! Almost literally.
Therapeutic intervention. It can look many different ways AND, for me, the point is always to help my clients heal and live their lives fully. Being - BE-ing who they really are and always were meant to be as divine children born on this planet.
If you have any questions please call me: 360-432-1236.
Here is to you living a joyous and BIG life!